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I’m a 23-year-old female college student whose life consists of going to class and going to the gym. I’m finding myself obsessing over him (like I said, he is fine), but the more I do, the more pathetic I feel.I got hurt in my last relationship, so I’ve been staying away from dating for a while. From the way he looks at me, I can tell he’s interested, but I have no idea why he hasn’t approached me. —Pathetic Shy Girl With A Crush We’ll get to your issues in a moment, PSGWAC, but first… Soon I won’t be fit to operate the remote for the TV in my hotel room much less dole out sex advice to my love-, clue-, and orgasm-lorn readers.I’m attractive and I notice guys checking me out—making the gym a second home does have benefits! We make a lot of eye contact while we work out, and some days he’ll walk by my treadmill and awkwardly smile, but we’ve talked only once. Don’t you hate it when you’re working on a column that’s way overdue and you have a horrible headache and you grab the bottle of pills from your suitcase—a travel selection of Excedrins, Advils, and 222s—and you pour the pills into your hand and pick out a couple of 222s (they’re the ones that don’t have an “E” on them and aren’t green) and you toss the 222s in your mouth while you click through a few e-mails and then nearly choke to death? And don’t you hate it even more when you’re sitting there wondering how you nearly choked to death on a couple of 222s—they’re skinny! —and then you remember that your boyfriend put four of his massive, easy-to-choke-on Vicodins in with your pills the last time he came along on a trip? But before we begin: My apologies to anyone unlucky enough to find their letter in this week’s column.OK, PSGWAC, a lot of guys—fine and otherwise—have been led to believe that hitting on girls who aren’t in bars or on personals websites is tantamount to sexual harassment.Because, you see, for the last 20 years, fine and otherwise guys have been told that it’s not nice to hit on girls at work, on the bus, at the gym, or in class.Girls are still getting hit on at work, on the bus, at the gym, and in class, of course, just not by nice guys.The guys who approach girls at work, on the bus, etc., are, for the most part, fine and otherwise assholes.So I’m thinking Fine Boy is either a nice, polite, clueless straight dude who doesn’t want to make you feel uncomfortable or he’s a fag who stares because he thinks your skin is flawless and is sincerely curious about what product you use in your hair.
But I can fix a car, I don’t enjoy dancing (in clubs), I hate the bar scene, and I never use the word “fabulous.” I’m not attracted to faggy men.
Can you assure me that there are nonfaggy gay men out there?
—Straight Actor There are no nonfaggy gay men out there, SA.
Or there are no other nonfaggy gay men out there, I should say, because you’re nonfaggy—I’m taking your word for it, SA—and there you are, all nonfaggy and majoring in musical theater!
But you’re the only fabulously masculine gay man in America!